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What Can I Say?

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How to introduce themselves, apologize, forgive & set boundaries

Gives them the exact words to say, not just "be nice"

Illustrated on every page, so they actually read it

Builds the confidence, kindness & backbone that carry into adult life

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Illustrated chapters covering everything from How to Have a Conversation to How to Deal with Hard Things, How to Be Supportive and How to Be an Ally.

Your child learns how to introduce other people, be grateful, shut down gossip, comfort a friend, argue the right way, set boundaries and much more. Every skill comes with the exact words to say.

Written for kids ages 10 and up. It lands perfectly in the middle school years, when friendships get complicated and the right words matter most.

Younger confident readers enjoy it too, and many parents admit they learned a thing or two themselves.

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Does your child know what to say?

Does your child know how to introduce themselves? Do they know how to apologize, and how to forgive? Have they been taught how to be angry the right way?

Do they know how to comfort somebody? And do they know how to set boundaries when somebody asks too much of them?

Kids aren't just born knowing what to do. They need to be taught. Every one of these is a skill, and What Can I Say? teaches them all, with the exact words to say and colorful illustrations that make it stick.

✓ the social skills school never teaches

Raise a kid who gets along, and speaks up

The argument over the rules of Uno. The gossip at the lunch table. The friend who keeps asking too much.

Growing up is full of moments where the right words change everything. Most kids never get taught them, so they guess, stay quiet, or blow up.

What Can I Say? teaches both sides: how to be kind, grateful and inclusive, and how to stand their ground, shut down gossip, argue fairly and say no.

✓ get along AND express yourself

What your child will learn...

Inside these illustrated chapters, your child learns...

check How to ask for help, from friends, teachers and family

check How to apologize, and how to forgive

check How to be angry, and release big feelings the right way

check How to argue without losing the friend

check How to shut down gossip

check How to comfort somebody who's hurting

check How to be grateful, and actually show it

check How to set boundaries when someone asks too much

Over 2,400 happy families...

  • "I got it for my daughter and ended up ordering two more for her cousins. She's not really a reader but she'll sit with this one because of the drawings. Caught her quoting bits of it at dinner, which was not something I expected."

    Diane K, USA

  • "It made me realize I'd never actually taught him any of this, I just assumed he'd pick it up somewhere. He read the part about apologizing and tried it on his sister a few days later. Clumsy, but he tried, and that's further than we got before."

    Sarah W, Canada

  • “My son doesn’t read social cues the way other kids seem to. This book spells out the things nobody says aloud. It hasn’t fixed everything, but he’s stopped telling me that he’s bad with people, and that alone made it worth it.”

    Mark N, Australia

  • "This is my default birthday present for that age now. Two of the moms messaged asking where it was from. Only complaint is it's paperback and it's already getting beat up in her backpack, I'd have paid more for hardcover."

    Marisol V, USA

  • "He told a kid at his lunch table to stop talking about someone behind their back. Pretty much straight out of the book. He's eleven and I know for a fact I never taught him that."

    Sam L, UK

    Frequently Asked Questions

    It's a kid's guide to super useful social skills, written for children ages 10+. It teaches them how to get along AND express themselves: introducing themselves, apologizing, forgiving, being grateful, shutting down gossip, setting boundaries, comforting a friend and much more. Every skill comes with the exact words to say, backed by colorful illustrations.

    It's written for ages 10 and up, and it lands hardest in the middle school years. A confident 8 or 9 year old reader will get plenty out of it, especially read together. Older kids up to about 16 still find new chapters in it as their social life gets more complicated

    The opposite, in our experience. It teaches kids how to disagree calmly, hear the other side, and consider that they might be wrong. Parents tell us the arguing at home got quieter, not louder, because their child finally had words instead of a slammed door.

    This is the most common thing parents are surprised by. The chapters are short, the language is simple, and the illustrations carry a big part of every page. Kids can open it anywhere, read for two minutes, and walk away with something they can use. Most start reading it on their own within a week.

    It's one of the best gifts you can give a kid that age, and it's the reason most people order two. Buy 2 comes with free shipping so you can keep one and give one. Parents tell us the other families thank them for it later.

    You're covered by our 30-Day Money-Back Guarantee. If it doesn't help your child, contact our support team and you'll get a full refund. No questions asked.

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